Doing Our Part in Our Relationships -- By Sharon Burch
It seems to me this year, we are being especially reminded that what really matters is that our loved ones are safe and that we’ve done our best to show them our love and respect.
Maybe this holiday season is the time to clean up a messy disconnection in our family or another close relationship. But how do we do this?
1. Admit that a mess exists.
Relationships are not always easy. If there is something messy or uncomfortable between you and a loved one or an old friend, notice it and admit that it’s time to work toward a resolution.
2. Get over trying to assign blame.
Messes never get cleaned if we continually blame others for it. The mess may not be your fault, but if everybody keeps waiting for the other person to take the first step, it will never happen.
3. Decide to be the one to take the first step.
Make the bold decision to be the first in your family to offer peace and reconciliation. You may think you have time to do it later, but that is not always the case.
4. Take one step.
Maybe the first step is just a simple phone call, “Hey, I’m just calling to wish you happy holidays. I know we’ve had disagreements in the past, but I just want you to know that I love you and I hope we can put our division behind us…”
5. Mentally prepare for any response.
One small step might be all that is needed to begin bringing resolution... or, it might not. You might experience rejection again, so be mentally prepared for anything. Either way, do your best to accept their response with grace and know you have done the right thing.
This holiday season, leave every room a little cleaner than you found it and leave every person a little better than you found them as well.
For more help to improve your relationships, see Sharon Burch, APRN, at the Atma Clinic: www.AtmaClinic.com/services. Your first visit is free. Contact us at 785/760-0695.